No one, whether he be father, mother, brother or any other relation, comes to our aid in attaining the goal of life (self-realization).
We have to chalk out and traverse the path of self-realization ourselves.
1. We have to discriminate between the Unreal and the Real, renounce the things and enjoyments of this world and the next, control our senses and mind, and aspire for liberation only.
2. Instead of depending upon others, we should have full faith in ourselves.
3. When we begin to practice discrimination, we come to know, that the world is transient and unreal and
4. our passion for worldly things becomes less and less, and ultimately we get dispassion or non-attachment for them.
5. Then we know that the Brahma which is no other than our Guru is the sole reality and
6. as It transcends and besets the seeming universe, we begin to worship It in all creatures. This is the unitive Bhajan or worship.
7. When we thus worship the Brahma or Guru whole-heartedly, we become one with Him and attain self-realization.
8. In short, a) always chanting the name of the Guru, and b) meditating on Him enables us to c) see Him in all beings, and 4) confers eternal bliss on us.
"I draw to Me, My man from far off or even across the seven Seas to Shirdi, like a sparrow with a string fastened to its feet"-Shirdi Sai Baba, Indian Spiritual Guru-God 